As was aptly expressed by a friend during his recent birthday speech (as he stood surrounded by family and friends), the way to good health is through our social connections - our relationships with others.
But the value of our relationships can go so much deeper - if we choose to allow it.
Relationships don't happen by accident. They are there to help us grow and show us where we need to grow. Because it's often through our discomforts that we learn the most. And the reality is relationships can sometimes be quite uncomfortable!
Relationships can help us to see the unseen parts of ourselves. The parts we like to tuck away. The insecurities. The messes. The bits we've tried so hard to hide from ourselves.
Unfortunately many see relationships as a way of fulfilling their every emotional need. Which is a sure fire way to a train wreck. Relationships aren't there to fulfill us. We need to do that for ourselves.
How do we do this? By digging underneath the discomfort when it arises. Owning it as part of ourselves, not a discomfort created by this other person we have had the fortune to meet and be with and connect with. To be present with what is showing up. Instead of running away or pushing it aside. Owning what is going on. Owning our thoughts, our feelings, our actions not as a reflection of what we might think the other person has or hasn't done but as a way to shine light on our own agendas. Have faith in the process. Enjoy their company. Be faithful to your own needs. And above all let go of the need to be perfect in their eyes as you are the one that is needing to be comfortable with who you are. Be present to your own feelings of inadequacy as these are not rules but guideposts to what is possible IF you choose to accept you are enough and move forward down the path of inner wisdom and freedom from the fears that frequently govern our mind.
Would you like to make a positive change in your life? Why not book an appointment today. If you have any questions, or you would like to find out more about my techniques or approach, please give me a call or send me an email. No question is too big or small.
Counsellor (Trauma informed)
EFT Practitioner (Emotional Freedom Techniques)
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