Leaning into the chaos
Sometimes in life we might have a vague notion of what we want but are unable to move forward. We don’t know why. It’s just there. A concept of something greater that we can’t quite reach.
And maybe around us there are things happening that create discomfort that make us want to move forward even more. But still we remain stuck. Sound familiar? Bills piling up, relationship difficulties, or no relationship. Health issues. Fights. Drama. All of these are signs that something is off. Not quite right. Out of sync. And while it’s not comfortable we might paradoxically find comfort in the chaos because it feels familiar. And so we hang onto this familiarity and can’t move forward. Because the discomfort feels safer than moving into the complete unknown.
How do you address this?
Lean into the discomfort. Lean into the chaos. That feeling of resistance.
What does it feel like?
Does it feel scary? Can you feel more the further you lean? Can you gain clarity about what it is all about?
That feeling of not having enough money. The feeling of that relationship that is not working. The feeling of being unwell. That pain in your body. What is it trying to tell you? Sit in the midst of that chaos, that pain and just be. Ask yourself these questions:
This is all about moving forward into the unknown. The discomfort is what we yearn for in disguise. It is saying, ‘this is the way you need to go’. ‘This is what you need to address if you want to move forward’. The discomfort is showing you what you need to move in order to clear the way.
If you don’t like they way you feel or your situation. If it feels repetitive, stuck and yuk and there is a yearning for something greater, then the way forward is through that discomfort to find the gem inside. What would it be like if you could let go and leant right into that without fear of falling?
Be kind to yourself.
Counsellor / Trauma Therapist
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