Do you sometimes feel that you want things to be easier but no matter what you try life just seems hard? That surely there must be an easier way to do things?
Do you feel there is something stopping you from moving forward easily?
Imagine for a moment you need to go into a building. But instead of going through the front door, which is obviously the easiest and most direct route, you go via the foundations. Crawling through mud and water and ducking under beams. Thinking all the while, 'there must be an easier way'. Eventually you come out from under the other side of the building and ask a passer-by if there is an easier way to get into the building and they tell you how to get to the front entrance!
Such is the power of the subconscious mind and beliefs that can blind us to seemingly obvious possibilities. When you have programs running in the background that limit you, there often doesn't seem to be an easy way forward.
Beliefs are our filter for how we perceive and make meaning of the world. Beliefs are often unconscious, often illogical to our current way of thinking, and almost always developed in the early years of life.
If your three-year-old self developed a belief about life it would have made perfect sense at that age but maybe not so much now. This can make beliefs quite difficult to define.
For example, perhaps as a three-year-old child you were playing a new game, and a parent said something that made you feel what you were doing wasn't good enough or you were doing it the wrong way. As an adult you would probably shrug this off or be able to work through it. But as a three-year-old your self-worth may feel crushed and in that moment you may start to form a belief about yourself being not good enough. Once a belief is formed the mind tends to go looking for evidence to support it. The mind is a fact seeking machine and very good at its job!
One way to start clarifying current beliefs is to notice repeating patterns in your life. What is it you hold to be true that is stopping you from doing things differently?
Or perhaps think about something you have been wanting to do that you have been struggling with. This might be starting a new business, start exercising regularly, doing some study, leaving an unhealthy relationship, asking for a raise, etc.
Then say: “I would (eg. start my own business) BUT…..
And notice what comes immediately to mind after the ‘BUT’. This provides clues to your beliefs. This might be beliefs about you, or beliefs about what is available to you or what you deserve.
Beliefs are not permanent. They can be changed. However, your mind will likely create resistance about changing these beliefs. After all, they were created for a reason that seemed very valid at the time. That is why it can be helpful to gain the support of a mentor, counsellor or coach to assist you in examining and changing beliefs and supporting you to move forward through any resistance that arises. Everyone has different beliefs that can limit them or lift them. How you choose to move forward with them is up to you.
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