In her book Thank and Grow Rich, Pam Grout tells a story about taking surfing lessons while on holiday. During the lesson the instructor tells her repeatedly to ‘focus on the beach’ (as opposed to responding to her concerns about ending up on the rocks), because, he said, the surfboard will always head towards where you are looking so if you are focused on the rocks that’s undoubtedly where you will end up!
Grout goes on to talk about how she has applied this lesson to her daily life and the goals she is wanting to achieve. When she focuses on the beach (aka - where she wants to get to and the benefits of getting there) she ends up with a more positive state of mind and generally much better outcomes.
So what do these thoughts tend to look like in relation to goals or things you might be considering changing?
You might end up thinking things like:
Or the Beach
As you read through the different statements above, notice how they make you feel and which ones make you feel better? The ones listed for the rocks, or the beach?
As you look to the year ahead and the changes you would like to create in your life, keep thinking about how you can frame it so you are focused on what you want and where you want to get to. At the very least you get to spend time thinking about things that make you feel great!
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